Trees and Forests
There is an old saying; “you can’t see the trees for the forest,” or, as I have learned in some areas, it is, “Can’t see the forest for the trees.” Whichever way, it all comes down to the same thing. Sometimes we are so immersed in a situation that we do not see it clearly. Other factors significantly enhance this problem, such as depression and anxiety. That is probably the time you least want to hear someone else’s view of the situation and when you most need to hear someone else’s point of view of the problem itself.
There was a time when I was suffering from depression and anxiety. This is a hard thing to admit in our culture. I came from a family where you were supposed to handle these problems yourself. Our children are grown now, but I was dismayed to realize how my depression and anxiety affected them in talking with them. I had no idea, and that is where the “you can’t see the trees for the forest” comes into play.
Suppose your child is displaying behavior issues, anxiety, depression, or increased ADHD issues. In that case, it may be time to take a step back and look at yourself and see if you may be a contributing factor. Perhaps individual counseling for yourself and/or Parent Management Training with your child’s counselor could help you all get back on the trail and see both the trees and the forests.
Candace C. Anderson